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2 New Reasons Mama's Boys Make The Best Boyfriends (according to Cosmo)

They've gotten a bad rap for years, but recent research shows that guys who are close to their moms are super boyfriend and husband material. Here's why.

By Korin Miller
Between raving about her unparalleled cooking ability and rushing to her place whenever she needs something repaired, a man who is close with his mother tends to freak us out a little. But we're definitely gonna start giving these dudes another look thanks to a study from Arizona State University, which found that mama's boys have better communication skills and higher levels of empathy than guys who have cut the apron strings.

As a result, men who are close to their moms are much more likely to be in healthy, monogamous relationships than men who lack that connection, says New York City-based couples therapist Rachel Sussman.

So what exactly gives mama's boys such stellar LTR skills? These sweeties have been taking cues from their mothers for years. By observing how she relates to people and getting feedback from her while he was growing up, mama's boys are more likely to resist masculine stereotypes such as being aggressive and detached in relationships, explains study author Carlos Santos, PhD.

Mama's boys express their feelings more, are more tuned into our needs, and are closer listeners when women talk, says marital therapist Scott Haltzman, PhD, author of Secrets of Happily Married Women, all qualities that we crave in a partner. Even better, that openness and willingness to listen translate into awesome bedroom skills too.

Of course, mama's boys don't have a sucky reputation for no reason. Knowing there's another woman he's so connected to can grate on any girlfriend or wife's nerves. But you can deal with it by not viewing that bond as a threat or thinking that your guy has a limited amount of attention and love, and he's giving too much of it to her. Says Haltzman: "Thinking this way will only cause problems in your relationship."

Still, you have to set boundaries. If he chats her up on the phone while you're intimate or drops plans with you to see her, you've gotta step up and say something. Sussman recommends telling your guy how much you love that he's so attached to his mom, but that the two of you need to be a team and put your relationship first. Then, follow it up with a suggestion, like that he call his mom during his lunch break at work or telling her she can't come over when you're spending alone time together.

And while most of us are thrilled by a guy who will talk about his emotions, it can be a little too much if the mama's boy in him is always on display. When it gets too much, Sussman recommends encouraging his more masculine behavior, like telling him how hot it is when he changes the oil in his car. This sends the message that, while you love his sensitivity, you're equally turned on by his manly side.

Oh, and whatever you do, avoid the term "mama's boy." "No matter how in touch they are with their feelings, men still want to be men," says Sussman. "A lot of guys know that they're a mama's boy...and it's already embarrassing enough for them."

My Problem...

They're either married or gay. And if they're not gay, they've just broken up with the most wonderful woman in the world, or they've just broken up with a bitch who looks exactly like me. They're in transition from a monogamous relationship and they need more space. Or they're tired of space, but they just can't commit. Or they want to commit, but they're afraid to get close.When one comes around that wants to get close, I know I'm gonna think theres something seriously wrong with him. lol

Why Men Love Bitches

Book Review- Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov

From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

I never really understood what it meant to be 'too nice.' The first time I was told that I was 'too nice' and that I could be 'too sickly sweet' was in June 2008. I had gone out to spend time with this guy I had been dating and his friends. Out of the blue he says to me 'you're too nice'. I was floored...NEVER had I EVER been called too nice...and this time when he said that I was too nice...he didn't mean it in a good way.

I grew silent for the remainder of the evening. I didn't understand what he meant. That night he recommended this book for me to read. As I wanted to make things work with my gentleman friend I picked it up and this is what I had discovered:

Why Men Love Bitches is a book full of truths to empower the average woman. This book is broken down into ten sections with 100 attraction principles that I STILL find myself going back to look at, in order to reempower myself when I feel disempowered.

For example:

Attraction Principle #1- Anything a person chases in life runs away.

Attraction Principle #4- Sometimes a man deliberately won't call just to see how you'll respond

Attraction Principle #86 -The more independant you are of him, the more interested he will be

Attraction Principle #100- The most attraction quality of all is dignity

Each principle targets a specific case scenerio (with examples) in which women often find themselves in.

With #100 Attraction Principles listed conveniently in the appendix of this book, I found it easy to look up the one(s) that relate to me . This made it easy for me to go back and skim parts of those specific principles prior to an event I would be attending. (eg. prior to going on a date; going out to a social event where I may meet men or just hanging out with my male friends).

I truly was getting alot out of this book (and I still am months from when I first read it). I decided to take it to a couple of my social gatherings...all including men and women ages 25-38.

Many of my male friends smirked when I began to read the principles to them (some women too)...all KNOWING that they were guilty manipulating a relationship or two with one of the principles I had just read. I discovered that both guys and girls whom I had discussed this book with didn't disagree with what Sherry had written. In fact, she writes the principles of attraction in a way that can be interpreted loosely into any situation.

It was great to share this book with my friends (of both genders). I found that discussing the book with them gave me a greater insight on how they all percieve things (some interpreting each principle differently)and I even discovered things about myself that I never knew I had a stance on.

Its been almost half a year since I first read this book. I laughed to myself when I got into one of my girlfriend's cars one day and found that she had purchased the book and had been keeping it as a reference 'just in case' (as she says).

I also found a copy of this book on my male friend's nightstand. (He claims to have bought it for his girlfriend to read)--NB: She has her own copy at her house---hmmm... :)

I would HIGHLY recommend this easy read to anyone out there. Not only does it strengthen relationships between a couple...but you can also take pointers on how to empower yourself in any relationship (with friends or family members) too.

So what are you waiting for? You can stop that awkward feeling of being manipulated...and take control. Afterall, we are in control of our own thoughts and feelings...we just have to be gently reminded that we often conform to make others happy...but how does that really make us feel?!?!